You Don't Need to Heal Yourself!

You are perfect the way you are.

If that's true, then let's talk about this idea of "healing." I know a lot about this word- it's in the title of my business and I've been a therapist for over 12 years teaching clients, students and others about it.  So, if I believe everyone is perfect, then why the heck do I have a business called Rasa Healing???

Well, when we think of the word "healing" we may often think of getting better, doing something, taking action, purging, rewiring and possibly undergoing a surgical mental or emotional overhaul. Let's work together to consider a different perspective...

Healing is actual healing of the way our mind sees the soul. We heal perspective, we do not heal ourselves. My work in the world is a practice of helping others achieve knowing-ness that they are so genuinely worthy and full. Our true self, our soul, is completely untouchable in it's purity, wholeness, divinity and deservability. Surprise!!!!! You are already everything you wish to be. Consider this quote: "Nothing real can be threatened, nothing unreal exists"- A Course in Miracles. To think that we need to "be better" and "do better" is a function of the tainted mind who thinks it's broken. Offer yourself a sacred pause for a moment and reflect on that reality...The truth that you are "there" already.

Now stay with me and allow this idea to settle.

You don't need to run, leap, jump, do push-ups, or pay millions of dollars to feel better about yourself. All you have to do is cultivate a pathway from a mind addicted to something being wrong, a/k/a releasing the grip, to an awareness that you are totally awesome and whole a/k/a integrating the one truth.

The Buddha says "It is better to travel well than to arrive." Indeed humans, including myself, strive to examine, over analyze, fix, work, and improve our condition. We look to arrive somewhere within ourselves or externally, that will bring us greater happiness. We tend to fall along a continuum of avoidance and indulgence as we dance along this path. The journey, however, is sweet because it is filled with new insights, love and opportunity if we pause and see it. Let's look out for this very real, very active, attachment to indulgence and avoidance and instead tend to the garden within, or the peaceful path of presence. This is true mindfulness. This is a path traveled well.

Imagine not rushing anywhere but waking to every moment with gratitude because you simultaneously sense your wholeness, while also giving praises for the pain passing through to teach you great things. 

What to do then with unhelpful patterns, or the "imperfect" parts of you? Well here's the thing.. if you actually cultivate a pathway to sense your true worthy-source within, you begin to embody a loving presence with all things out of balance, meaning that you adjust your mind and actions by tuning them into the essence of awesomeness that you are. It becomes an inside out job versus outside in practice. Or even better, it's a practice that does not rely on the mind to tell you if you're "okay" or not. You actually feel and sense your wholeness and use the mind to align every aspect of you to that awareness. Viktor Frankel says "Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom." I would also add that within that space, is compassion and patience.

The "how"= practice. Creatively developing a practice where you can sew compassion into your daily experience of self realizations and evolve-ment is key. To do this, we must be ready to get curious about the current stories and patterns we live. Tara Brach says "over time if you practice mindful presence of pain for even a few moments at a time, equanimity will increase." I do this with anger. I give into it indulgently and then I pull back judging, sitting with it watching the critical thought "what's wrong with you?" and then waiting some more and giving space for the "how can I help you?" to bubble up in me. This loving embrace must activate within you too if you wish to be at peace with your inner stuff. Within the compassionate heart of your own effort, we can soften and give way to the reality that while incredibly imperfect, we are already healed.

"Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it"- Rumi

If you'd like to explore more about how you can do this work. Join me. I'm in it. I would be honored to walk alongside you and offer you support through the wisdom of the Akashic Record to learn unique, and nurturing ways you can embrace your divine self.