Getting Cozy with Transition: EEeeek!

Sitting with stillness and getting cozy with transition without frantic efforts to move from it are important moments along our path in this life. Transition is defined as "the process or period of changing from one state or condition to another." Yet, we aren't so comfortable in sitting with the discomfort of transition are we? We seem to feel much more secure with defined plans, clear maps, and expected outcomes. We tend to like being there, much more than getting there. So much so that we sometimes force those tangible safety nets albeit rushed. If we do that, we risk aligning with an outcome that's not fully realized or worse yet, not fully true for us. By doing so, we miss out on the magical middle...the transition.

Humans love to achieve, feel good, and be in charge of their lives. Ego and disdain for "undesirable" emotions drive this obsession with comfort and we've forgotten how to just be okay with the in between moments of zesty living. I would even venture to say that these transitional moments are the juicy, and ever-so-rich, defining moments in our lives. Instead of running from transition, this article is about getting you to love it there. To not only avoid squashing the good stuff to come, but actually embracing the current space that you are in. Being "here" wherever that is, is not a waste of time or an elevator ride to something better. The mind has a way of always seeking more anyway so once you're "there" you'll redefine a new "there" to run to, and so on and so forth. The cycle never ends. The real answer is to love today, and sit deeply in the waiting for the horizon yet to come.

Walk the Transition Bridge

Transitions are like bridges, taking you from one destination to another safely and without falling into shark- invested waters. Please don't short, skip, ignore or jump off the transition bridge. Walk down it, and notice everything. Take a deep breath and appreciate the movement in your life. Love the questions even if you don't have the answers because it means you are going somewhere different. Sounds exciting right? Loving questions dives you deep into yourself and helps you to uncover what's stirring in there. It means the snow globe is being activated and it's time for you to reflect on yourself, choices and circumstances. Nothing in life stays the same, that is only an illusion peppered with man-made stubbornness. Instead, I invite you to say to yourself "Ah yes, transition, thank you universe for supporting my growth, and movement. I trust you and I trust myself." Walk the bridge and be thankful for its strength, stability, and steadiness.

No Decision Yet, No Problem

Sometimes we really don't know what to do in a situation, and so we belabor our poor brain cells until they are tied in knots and unable to determine which way is up. If you don't know, you don't know, don't force it. If you can acknowledge that you don't know, you can begin to relax and reflect on the conflicting viewpoints on either side of an issue. You see, you are not the confusion, you are an observer of the confusion, grounded and present, awaiting further clarity. All too often we over-identify with a state of indecision and thereby get trapped there. If you rush into a decision because you hate the waiting game you will likely skip over an aspect of the decision that you really needed to see and end up manifesting something that's not aligned with what you really needed or wanted. Spirits advice? Be the witness of your confusion and wait it out. You might say, "I am patient with this state of not knowing and give myself wholehearted permission to uncover what my soul wants by listening."

Have Faith, Not Control

As mentioned above, rushing into decisions for some has become a habitual way of life. This happens because the impulse to control becomes obsessive. We have a need to understand everything by gripping and squeezing our mind, others, and situations so much so that we force the natural order out. Free will reigns supreme, as I am told from the world of spirit. I hear this all the time from the guides and teachers I channel. Our desire to yank the wheel and veer left puts in motion a set of circumstances to help us regain the balance we just gave up. No one can stop us from our own free will, and by controlling, we throw our souls into disharmony. This is a form of cutting yourself off from spirit. When that happens, harmony can only be regained when we are back in balance with what has been unsettled. A wonderful way to be in touch with that concept is to listen and observe what's being brought to you. This type of detailed observation isn't possible if you're too busy controlling the outcome of everything. Therefore, the "control freak" stance reveals a lack of true faith and trust in the divine. Let go dear one. Let go of your mind and of your fear. "I am ready and willing to release control." And if you are really struggling with letting go of the fear that hides underneath your control, talk to someone you trust about it. Why? Well because fear can't live in the light very long.

Confusion is Cool

Contrary to popular belief, confusion is uncomfortable, but not all bad. Some of the most wonderful things in life come from discomfort: butterflies from cocoons, babies from childbirth, and growing pains from growth. Still yet, humans reject discomfort. There seems to be this unspoken thing that if we indulge in confusion, it will trap us like a spider web and we won't be able to get out. The only danger with confusion is this: avoidance. Avoidance is really the only way we move like molasses. It's near impossible to be stuck in confusion if you visit it, listen to it, give it tea and a hug, and just love those questions. By touching the spinning wheel of clay, you change it. By ignoring it, it stays the same. I give you permission to face confusion head on and see what it has to say to you. Rushing into a decision or avoiding it all together is not helpful. How about..."Confusion is cool, I am calm, and all is well." 

Open the Door to All Emotions

Rumi in his poem, The GuestHouse, says it best: "Welcome and entertain them all! Even if they are a crowd of sorrows,who violently sweep your house empty of its furniture, still, treat each guest honorably. He may be clearing you out for some new delight."  All emotions are to be celebrated and nurtured yet we live in a culture and often in family units that discourage the expression of certain emotions. Any emotion in and of itself is not negative, but how you use or express that emotion can be. Consider a very hot tea kettle for example. By itself, it is not seen as bad in fact used properly one could experience reward from it's hot water such as tea or coffee. However, if I were to throw the hot kettle I could create a very dangerous situation for myself and others. If we were to welcome each emotion that arrives within us we can learn about it's message. Ignoring any emotion never really works out well. It's like locking someone in a basement who wants out, they're going to start making noise down there. By acknowledging emotion, we move energy and allow further clarity to life situations. Accepting yourself and honoring the emotions that arrive are key to making important decisions because you are intimately aware of how you feel. And like a lighthouse, these emotions illuminate the way. "I welcome the emotions that knock on my door. I will treat them as honored guests."


To recap, here's a review of the ways in which you can embrace transition more wholeheartedly:

1. Walk the Transition Bridge: Be mindful and appreciate the in between moments in life
2. No Decision Yet, No Problem: Be the observer of your own confusion
3. Have Faith Not Control: Let go of the free will for a bit and float
4. Confusion is Cool: Be calm and don't avoid discomfort
5. Open the Door to All Emotions: Allow whatever emotions come up and manage them wisely

I'm sure abundant support is waiting for you from your guides and teachers to love the questions and sit mindfully with any confusion or transition state you currently may be in!

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